Rape is any act of intercourse through force. Meaning that the victim has not said yes to the act of sex.
Now what brought this topic to mind is that I recently read an article about a young woman who drank too much at a party. She passed out and two men end up having sex with her unconscious body. People watched and took videos and photos of her but did not bother to get these pigs off her.
Is this rape?
Of course it is. She did not consent to intercourse. She was not even in her right mind set. This is rape.
But believe it or not there are a lot of people who say “This isn’t rape. She never said no.” It’s true. She never said no. But having non consensual sex does not mean that a no has to be present. Non consenual sex is when a yes was not present. A victim could be silent and not fighting and it can still be rape because she never consented to sex with a yes.
Now get this. In this article, many people felt that it was this woman fault that she was raped. If she hadn’t drank so much then she wouldn’t have been raped. Excuse me but when is it ever okay to rape anyone?
Regardless if someone is drinking or dresses revealing. Or has a reputation. Or whatever! It is never a reason to rape anyone. Ever. Woman should not have to be afraid of the way they dress or act. They should not have to fear being punished with rape. And they should never be the one’s blamed for such a horrible act. They dressed or acted that way, it must mean they wanted to be raped. No. No. No.
It it not a crime to dress revealing or to drink. Rape is a crime. You can not justify anything with rape. It is not within someone power to punish or supposedly show justice through rape.
Another thing I hear a lot is “she has a reputation of being a slut. She can’t be raped cause she’s always sleeping around.” Seriously people. Where the hell is this information coming from. A woman can have thousands of lovers. Shoot, she can even be a prostitute. But the moment she doesn’t want it and you do it anyways, IT IS RAPE! And it is not her fault. And she did not deserve that either.
Rape happens in all forms. It can be violent and forceful. But not always. You can be a victim by not consenting to it and not fighting either. Just because you didn’t fight or scream never means that it was not rape. If you didn’t want it, then you were a victim.
What is even more horrifying is that there are witnesses out there. They watch. Take pictures and videos. They laugh and point. They judge. But they don’t stand up to stop it or help the victim. These people are even worse than the rapists. Because you watched. You let it go on and didn’t dare gain the nerve to help stop it. How can you live with that on your conscience? Knowing it was wrong, and you did nothing. There’s a special place for you people. I ptomise you that.
Now that I’m over this dark subject… I’ll be back next Wednesday for the next sex blog! Be safe everyone! And always do the right thing!